Many dating tips every realist romantic should follow

 When we talk about dating apps and advices everyone’s had their full. There is finally comes a time, when the usual dos and don’ts in a relationship or the frequent dating advices by your family or friends do not ring a bell anymore. If that’s the case, you’re now into some serious business. We’re all either searching for a perfect partner or a romantic lover, who’ll add some spice into our mundane lives and who’d make us feel loved and cherished at all times. However, would you prefer an ideal yet unromantic love affair or a flawed yet passionate relationship? If you’re a pragmatist and have made peace with your imperfections then you’re sure to choose the latter. In that case, here are 5 dating advices every realist romantic should definitely follow.

A ‘Soul-mate’ is a myth. So stop looking for one!

As much as you like the idea of a ‘Soul-mate’, finding one is all the more difficult and the sooner you understand that, the bigger are your chances to at least find a lovable partner. In the beginning, every person you meet or like will seem like a potential soul-mate, only to be a disappointment in the end. But that does not you stop looking at all. Rather than looking for ‘The One’, you must first concentrate on finding a good partner for yourself.

You’re not selfish if you take some ‘Me’ time

Relationships can surely take a toll on you and your partner. Being together at all times, can either be exhausting or can become monotonous. With that being said, there is nothing wrong in taking some time off of your relationship and investing on yourself. You must learn to give and take some space from your relationship to maintain a healthy relationship.

Stop looking for reasons to change others

Every relationship is flawed and no one can actually do anything about it, but the complexity of these flaws is what makes it even more wonderful and worthwhile. Trying to change someone is like trying to alter everything in that person that initially made you fall in love with him or her. Change is but the only constant, but it’s always wise to wait and let it happen on its own, otherwise it’ll only strain your relationship.

Loosen up on your expectations

A lot of times, our romantic expectations are shaped by the novels that we read or the movies that we watch. We want the same fairy tale love-story or the happily ever after depicted in the stories. However, we must learn to differentiate between what’s real and that which is fictional. The lesser you expect, the better it is.

If you don’t feel it anymore, end it maturely like an adult

If you don’t feel the love anymore, one of the most realistic thing to do is to end it and deal with it like a grown up. There’s no use dramatizing the situation and beating around the bushes. If you’re both not interested in it anymore or don’t feel enthused about each other, it’s time to get over with it.

Online Dating Tips for Men: Choosing Your Profile Photos

 It’s a new year and a new you. So why not start with a new profile picture to make the right impression? Guys, here are some online dating tips on how to choose the right pictures for your profile.

There are so many things to consider when you’re picking your profile pictures. Do you smile? Do you show yourself with friends? Should you include photos with your female friends?

Luckily, there’s a science to all this and someone already did the research. Researchers from Queen Mary University of London looked at 86 studies around psychology, sociology, behavioral science, and other fields applicable to dating in the Internet era to come home with some helpful tips.

Here’s what they found:

1. Mimic profiles you find attractive. 

A lot of people will say use a good photo. But what exactly does that mean? It’s whatever you want to see in a potential partner. Researchers say you should browse profiles, find people you think are attractive, and mirror their profiles.

That’s not to say use the exact same clothes with the exact same background. But according to researchers, people are attracted to profiles that are like themselves.

2. Be you.

If you’ve ever browsed dating profiles with friends, you’ve probably come across someone staring into the camera with eyes that show little or no emotion. That’s definitely something you should avoid doing.

Instead, go for an attractive and genuine photo. According to researchers, a smile “that crinkles up your eyes,” is seen as more genuine. But, essentially, photos that show you in a happy environment and makes you seem fun to be around do best. It could be from your birthday when you and the boys had a great time at a bar. Or from a recent holiday trip you took with family.

3. Add in a group photo.

The selfie is acceptable, but you shouldn’t limit yourself. There is always a debate about whether to use group photos in a dating profile. But now it’s over. According to the research, if your photos show other people having a good time with you, that increases your desirability.

But make sure it’s obvious who you are. Too often, people are left wondering which one is you. And if you crop people out of the photos, do it tastefully so people don’t think you’re hiding anything.

Another thing to consider is including photos of yourself at the center of a group— where you lead the eye. It gives you a sense of importance that people find attractive.

4. Photos with female friends can actually help you out. 

Research shows that women find men more attractive when they see other women smiling at them. Just make it clear that they’re your friends. And it’s probably best to use a photo with more than one woman so it doesn’t look like an ex. I can’t tell you how many times female friends have showed me dating profile photos with cut-off faces or an arm in the corner. They usually say something like, “That’s probably his ex,” before moving on to the next person.

5. Don’t make it about the photo.

As powerful as a photo can be in making you an appealing first date, it’s not everything. The rest of your profile matters and the researchers aren’t shy about saying that.

You need to use several strategies at once (updating your description, sending personal messages, staying on the ball when it comes to replying) to have a great profile that will help you stand out.