When we talk about dating apps and advices everyone’s had their full. There is finally comes a time, when the usual dos and don’ts in a relationship or the frequent dating advices by your family or friends do not ring a bell anymore. If that’s the case, you’re now into some serious business. We’re all either searching for a perfect partner or a romantic lover, who’ll add some spice into our mundane lives and who’d make us feel loved and cherished at all times. However, would you prefer an ideal yet unromantic love affair or a flawed yet passionate relationship? If you’re a pragmatist and have made peace with your imperfections then you’re sure to choose the latter. In that case, here are 5 dating advices every realist romantic should definitely follow.
A ‘Soul-mate’ is a myth. So stop looking for one!
As much as you like the idea of a ‘Soul-mate’, finding one is all the more difficult and the sooner you understand that, the bigger are your chances to at least find a lovable partner. In the beginning, every person you meet or like will seem like a potential soul-mate, only to be a disappointment in the end. But that does not you stop looking at all. Rather than looking for ‘The One’, you must first concentrate on finding a good partner for yourself.
You’re not selfish if you take some ‘Me’ time
Relationships can surely take a toll on you and your partner. Being together at all times, can either be exhausting or can become monotonous. With that being said, there is nothing wrong in taking some time off of your relationship and investing on yourself. You must learn to give and take some space from your relationship to maintain a healthy relationship.
Stop looking for reasons to change others
Every relationship is flawed and no one can actually do anything about it, but the complexity of these flaws is what makes it even more wonderful and worthwhile. Trying to change someone is like trying to alter everything in that person that initially made you fall in love with him or her. Change is but the only constant, but it’s always wise to wait and let it happen on its own, otherwise it’ll only strain your relationship.
Loosen up on your expectations
A lot of times, our romantic expectations are shaped by the novels that we read or the movies that we watch. We want the same fairy tale love-story or the happily ever after depicted in the stories. However, we must learn to differentiate between what’s real and that which is fictional. The lesser you expect, the better it is.
If you don’t feel it anymore, end it maturely like an adult
If you don’t feel the love anymore, one of the most realistic thing to do is to end it and deal with it like a grown up. There’s no use dramatizing the situation and beating around the bushes. If you’re both not interested in it anymore or don’t feel enthused about each other, it’s time to get over with it.